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Dan M.
13-08-2018, 07:05 PM
Just to get the Americans here warmed up for November. :D

YB
13-08-2018, 07:16 PM
Have voted, realise its just for fun but I do sometimes think if 4's went away the forum would be extremely quiet. I'm guilty, I look regularly but only post occasionally.

4AMNTN
13-08-2018, 10:06 PM
Dan u crazy! How did you do that?
And yes, I am conscience of my posts. I'm always afraid that it's MY name showing up. Sorry - it definitely caught up with me this time. I'm wondering & sad - WHERE IS EVERYBODY. JD, Rita, Fiona, LoriDee, Monica, Deanie, Style, Veronica, Vince, Neil, Foggie, and of late Mo. Glad to see Dan's few & YB fewer. I really enjoyed reading y'alls posts. PLUS we're all over the place! It was nice.

Gismo
14-08-2018, 08:25 AM
Sadly facebook kill off a lot of marginal forums.

We do get a few new people registering but they are mainly spammers and i have to delete them.

I'm as guilty for not posting enough, but, i will say that i won't close the forum as long as we have regular posts :thumbsup:

YB
14-08-2018, 11:49 AM
Facebook (and similar) has already killed off some forums or drastically reduced the traffic on others. I don't do Facebook and never will so I hope this (and other) forums can stay alive

Dan M.
16-08-2018, 09:10 PM
Facebook (and similar) has already killed off some forums or drastically reduced the traffic on others. I don't do Facebook and never will so I hope this (and other) forums can stay alive


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momckee
17-08-2018, 01:00 PM
I'd hate to see this forum disappear, it always feels like home.

Dan M.
17-08-2018, 06:42 PM
I'd hate to see this forum disappear, it always feels like home.

Yes!

Meg
18-08-2018, 06:40 PM
LOL...facebook is on my phone...TBJ is not...and I've been super busy at work trying to catch up. HAD to take vacation or lose it. Then my mom went into hospice in early July. She passed at the end of July so I've been distracted to say the least! But I'm glad y'all are still here!!

momckee
20-08-2018, 02:11 AM
I was so sorry to hear about your Mom Meg, that is a hard situation to deal with, hope you are gradually feeling a wee bit better.

4AMNTN
20-08-2018, 04:28 PM
Oh Meg so sorry to hear about ur Mom. I have both but for how long???? Hope ur friends hold u up[emoji1317]
I’m not a FB’er. YB, Mo....
I’m glad to see Gis will keep this up. I enjoy it too! [emoji25][emoji3]


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Deanie
21-08-2018, 09:34 PM
Sorry about your mother, Meg.

4AMNTN
24-08-2018, 02:31 PM
Hey Deanie ... :wave:

Dan M.
24-08-2018, 07:53 PM
Meg, somehow I think I missed that on Facebook. I'm sorry to hear it. Hugs to you, friend.

Dan M.
27-07-2020, 08:54 PM
Well, it's a good thing we didn't change the name of this forum. 4, we hope everything is alright with you!

YB
28-07-2020, 11:52 AM
I also hope everything is OK with Fours. Seems very strange when someone goes missing who has been a member for ten or so years and probably made more posts than all the rest of us together

momckee
28-07-2020, 01:36 PM
Yes, seems a bit bare without 4A. I have her address so should drop her a line to make sure all is well.

YB
28-07-2020, 03:25 PM
Has anyone tried the private message facility on here? Or Facebook for those on it?

momckee
28-07-2020, 03:39 PM
Have written to 4A, letter waiting to be posted, will let you all know if I get a reply but she may be back on the forum before.

Dan M.
28-07-2020, 11:52 PM
Has anyone tried the private message facility on here? Or Facebook for those on it?

She's not on Facebook.

momckee
30-07-2020, 06:22 PM
A letter has gone to her at her home address in Tennesee, will let you know if I get a reply.

YB
31-07-2020, 10:23 AM
Look forward to hearing from you both:)

Gismo
01-08-2020, 08:42 AM
Fingers crossed everything is ok

4AMNTN
03-08-2020, 05:37 PM
Hello. It meant a lot to get a message from Dan. And all of your concerns. Mo - thank you I'll look for it.

In short my sister is not well. She's having a debilitating spell of mental illness. There are 3 of us girls 58, 56 & 54. It's the sister two years older than me. She lives in MI but has been here since June. WOW it's tough. She's not anyone that I know. It's like Rain Main, Monk, a Robot, and a PTSD patient all in one. 5 hospital stays in 3 months. I've been driving 6 hour days to get her to her therapy & at the end of the day I'm exhausted from being taxi, mother, sister, therapist, verbal whipping post, banker, coordinator, mediator ... I am so sad.
I miss having - friends to talk to. :"). I'll check the other posts to catch up on what I've missed.

Dan M.
03-08-2020, 05:42 PM
Wow, 4, that sounds TERRIBLE! Our hearts go out to you!

YB
03-08-2020, 07:05 PM
That sounds awful, Fours. Hopefully things will improve soon

Deanie
04-08-2020, 12:27 AM
So sorry for what y'all are going through, 4A.

4AMNTN
05-08-2020, 07:30 PM
Thank you. and Mo thank you so much for the kind letter & thoughtful words; it arrived yesterday. We find out tomorrow if she'll be going in yet another facility.

Dan M.
06-08-2020, 05:22 PM
Thank you. and Mo thank you so much for the kind letter & thoughtful words; it arrived yesterday. We find out tomorrow if she'll be going in yet another facility.

Please give us an update when you're able!

4AMNTN
24-08-2020, 02:03 AM
I left last Saturday & today you wouldn’t believe the sad texts that she has sent me so I bought a ticket to go back up again Wednesday and stay through next Saturday I really don’t know what we’re gonna do ... this is so sad[emoji22]


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YB
24-08-2020, 08:12 PM
Sorry to hear about this Fours. Hope things soon improve for you

Dan M.
24-08-2020, 09:18 PM
I left last Saturday & today you wouldn’t believe the sad texts that she has sent me so I bought a ticket to go back up again Wednesday and stay through next Saturday I really don’t know what we’re gonna do ... this is so sad[emoji22]


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Wow, no let up. At some point you'll need to take care of yourself. You'll need to put the guilt aside for a bit to do so. Don't wait too long.

momckee
25-08-2020, 12:39 PM
Went back to check on older texts 4A as did not know what was wrong, so sorry to read about your sister 4A. Hope that something positive can be done for her, good thoughts and prayers to you and all your family. ��

4AMNTN
31-08-2020, 04:34 PM
Good morning. This trip was kind of an eye opener. She's getting the "old" sister back a little - at times funny - can talk about OTHER things - but still has her "obsesses" & "worries". I have figured out: she WILL NOT or is NOT GOING to help herself. Doctors, therapist, medications, family support ... yes: she'll take it BUT will do nothing else. And still complains. Next is ECT and she's willing to do that IMO - because it's yet again something SHE doesn't not have to do. Needless to say this has put a strain on the family? Between disagreements & opinions & things said that you can't take back, etc.....it's a big deal we ALL live differently in different states and we look at this differently at times. I AM THE SUCKER - so I fret about it 24/7. Also I don't work ... it's been suggested (and said) that I'm the one with the "time". My mom has "been there" plenty - but she goes at it differently; the silent treatment is not nice but that's how SHE handles things. My oldest sister has been up to MI twice & helped out a lot but will no longer be "hands on". I have another ticket for the end of the month - TMI? too late! ha!
I appreciate all your thought prayers & concerns it means a lot! :wave: Thank you :clap:- & I'll not mention it again .... well, until there is something to report (ECT treatment, next visit up)

Dan M.
01-09-2020, 11:14 PM
Next is ECT and she's willing to do that

What's ECT? Electroconvulsive therapy?

4AMNTN
02-09-2020, 01:57 AM
What's ECT? Electroconvulsive therapy?

Yes. Sadly yes.
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4AMNTN
02-09-2020, 01:58 AM
What's ECT? Electroconvulsive therapy?

Yes. Sadly yes. I guess it’s ok .... for those who really need it ... not the scary 70’s movies we think of .BUT she isn’t telling the FULL truth to her therapist & Psychologist so HOW can they know the truth? im afraid she needs a 7/8 “volt” but because she pretends all is ok it’ll be a 1-2. -see? NO she’s not bad enough to be in an INPATIENT & she WILL NOT help herself to function on her own.
Sorry .... I don’t know what else to do/say ... AGAIN i think she’s choosing ECT cause it’s quick & she doesn’t have to try THEN she can say SEE it didn’t work ALL THE WHILE she’s NOT telling the TRUTH. .. see? [emoji22] ***had to delete a lot of this


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momckee
02-09-2020, 01:35 PM
You are having a difficult time 4A, hope the situation changes for the better soon.

4AMNTN
13-09-2020, 12:40 AM
My sister will admit herself Monday for a series of ECT treatments ... we’ll know more Friday - over the weekend. My mom will be up there then I go back at the end of the month. [emoji1317][emoji1317][emoji1317]


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4AMNTN
29-09-2020, 09:02 PM
Going to Michigan again this weekend for the week - my mom has been there for these last two. She’s had 5 ECT treatments out of a suggested 10. I am not as hopeful as I once was.


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Dan M.
02-10-2020, 09:25 PM
Going to Michigan again this weekend for the week - my mom has been there for these last two. She’s had 5 ECT treatments out of a suggested 10. I am not as hopeful as I once was.

Sorry to hear that, 4. That's hard.

YB
04-10-2020, 07:49 PM
Fingers crossed that you see some improvements soon, Fours

4AMNTN
09-10-2020, 04:27 PM
Well. it was not a good trip. Not only is she not improving now she has short-term-memory loss from the ECT (which is expected) ***. she picked me up at the airport - when I got in she pulled out onto the airport loop exit lanes & stop in the middle of traffic & said "I don't know where to go - don't know what I'm doing" ... THAT sums up my whole visit. She stays in bed won't shower EATS and repeats/states/questions "I need a job - I have to have a job". We did paperwork all week - for LTD ... verifying medications, appointments.... I told the Dr. about her driving question - He told her not to be driving!!! OH REALLY!!! That was Wednesday. So Wednesday evening I scramble to get a ride to the airport she lives 1 hour N of DTW. Uber does NOT service out that far ... YEP - a service car for 1 hour ... you can imagine the cost!
Keep in mind I don't get out - don't really do ANYTHING without Kevin so this flying being in a another state, driving to Cincinnati by myself, eating alone, ordering a CAR! - ... this is/was scary - sounds silly but I was terribly uncomfortable & ... IT WAS THE MOST PLEASANT DRIVE / driver / conversation - - - how about THAT I DID IT!
I am terribly sad - I actually ache - I don't know what else to do for her - and I live in TN. :pout: :idunno: :pout:

4AMNTN
11-10-2020, 01:12 AM
Ahhhh hell Dan I’ve done it again ! Me everywhere [emoji849]


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Dan M.
14-10-2020, 09:59 PM
Ahhhh hell Dan I’ve done it again ! Me everywhere [emoji849]


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It's fine, 4, it's not like any of us were posting while you were gone. I'm so proud of you for getting through that! I'm sorry it was so stressful for you. It's a tough season, I know. It sounds like you are definitely the family rock. I wish your other siblings would step up. But I'm glad you had a good ride with somebody!